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Article in Leicester Mercury on Saturday regarding the Bradgate Mental Health Unit and our experiences as carer and patient. 27th September 2014. (Yet to appear on the website, so please forgive the photos).
Incidentally to left is a photograph of me looking sad with the caption “‘It’s not making her better’ William Meddis, 42, who is concerned about the treatment his girlfriend is receiving at the Bradgate Unit.”
The More supplement in the Leicester Mercury is centred on “human interest” stories. J is very slightly fictionalized, some generalizations have been rewritten as specific situations and so forth, but it communicates that sense of frustration we’ve had with the Leicestershire Partnership NHS Trust who run the Bradgate Unit. There’s some stats about deaths in there as well. I’m not sure I remember an agency nurse telling Jo to “pull herself together”, but it’s definitely the sort of thing I’d say about the attitude of some professionals we’ve met. It feels good that issues like incorrect medication upon admission were cited, because the head of the Trust has had to respond specifically to that, and she mentions the new pharmacy facility as an improvement (see earlier post where I had to go into the new pharmacy because of their failure to deliver to the ward and then getting stuck there whilst they had to correct the prescription). Interestingly the head of the Trust also says that they would be happy to meet with me. This is funny because letters sent to specific staff seemed to be responded to by Customer Service personnel so far. Also, when someone says that they want to meet you in person suggests that you went to the papers first, which is not the case.

You can read in this blog the two detailed letters of complaint I’d already sent to the Trust.
My official complaint deadline has been extended by Customer Services until mid October. So much for, “we will respond within 25 days”. Hopefully this is a good thing or maybe it just means that some staff are on holiday. ;)

Edit: Better photos of article on blogger :

Edit: just reading the article again … I have to say that when J is in crisis that I am a fan of “containment” or even sectioning because it can be the only way legally that she can stopped from destroying herself, but the Bradgate Unit in many situations even fails to do that.


the best moment in tv history



Breaking The Male Code: After Steubenville, A Call To Action

 (Left to Right): Peter Buffett, Jimmie Briggs, Joe Ehrmann, Tony Porter,
 Dave Zirin and Moderator Eve Ensler.








I love how she almost drops it until she smells it and that flashbulb memory hits.

“Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real … Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit

Notice she says “who” it was and not “what” it was.

Oh I just gotta snuggle my baby bear!

1. If he doesn’t answer, don’t keep sending texts. If he wanted to talk to you, he would’ve responded.

2. People will make time for you when they care about you. If he says he’s too busy or constantly cancels his plans, he doesn’t care. People fight for you when they care.

3. Don’t let him touch you on the first date. If he tries, he’s not there for the same reasons you are.

4. You can tell a lot about a person by their favorite book.

5. If he can stomach more than ten straight shots without feeling a thing, he drinks too much.

6. Ask the uncomfortable things. When was the last time he was so high he couldn’t speak? What does he regret the most? Does he drink to remember or to forget?

7. Don’t send pictures unless you want to. If he has to talk you into it, don’t do it. If you hesitate, don’t do it. If you do take a picture, don’t include your face. Keep yourself safe.

8. If you can’t laugh when you’re having sex with him, maybe you aren’t sleeping with the right person. Sex isn’t about tricks and tips and routines.

9. If he hurts you, cut him out. He’s gone, he isn’t coming back, and you don’t need to prolong the pain.

10. Don’t be afraid to open up again. I promise not everyone will love you with a knife behind their back.

Boy advice from someone who made the same mistakes too often (via guiseofgentlewords)


Neil Gaiman’s 8 Rules of Writing, a remake of this post. Source.

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gronk takes the ALS ice bucket challenge 


gronk takes the ALS ice bucket challenge